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Going through a divorce? Remember self-care

Whether or not the divorce is amicable, it can still create a significant amount of stress in someone’s life.

It is easy for that stress and the divorce itself to take all of someone’s attention and energy. After all, a divorce involves many complex details and decisions about one’s future.

Empty nest syndrome could increase the chance of divorce

It is common knowledge that becoming a parent can change someone’s life, but it can also change the relationship that parents have with each other. Suddenly, children can become the center focus of both parents’ lives. This is natural.

However, what happens when the children move out of the house? Some reports say that parents who experience empty nest syndrome could face a higher chance of divorce.

Is financial infidelity affecting divorce rates?

Financial problems are a well-known cause of divorce among couples across the country. Several studies confirm that the more couples worry about finances, the higher the chances are that the marriage will end in divorce.

However, many recent studies reveal a new—and worrisome—financial issue that couples face, which could be contributing to divorce.

Divorced parents: Be on the lookout for parentification

Parents know that their decision to divorce will not only impact them but their children as well. Unfortunately, it is not always easy to determine precisely how their divorce will affect their children. Some children might take it hard and withdraw from activities and school, while others might experience grief, but eventually understand why their parents divorced.

In some cases, the emotional turmoil of a divorce could lead to the parentification of children. This can place a significant amount of stress on children, and parents must watch out to prevent parentification.

What is parallel parenting?

When spouses have children, they can rarely cut off all communication and contact with each other after a divorce. After all, they are both still parents. And if both parents wish to continue playing a role in their child’s life, then they will generally have to co-parent.

We have discussed co-parenting on our blog many times before, but there are several ways that parents can approach co-parenting after a divorce depending on their situation. One of these strategies is parallel parenting.

How does a QDRO work?

For most people in Virginia, their pensions and retirement accounts are one of the most valuable assets they have in their name. It is also one of the most important. Individuals will rely on those assets they have saved up when they retire from the workforce.

However, if individuals seek a divorce, they will have to divide the assets in their retirement. But they must do so properly, so they can preserve the assets they need and avoid tax consequences. In most cases, this requires a qualified domestic relations order (QDRO).

Staying together for the kids could be detrimental to the family

Many parents would do just about anything for their children. They put their children first and prioritize their needs even over their own.

They might even debate staying in an unhappy or unhealthy marriage because they believe it is better for the kids. This is a question that many parents might weigh over deciding to divorce. However, if parents are faced with this dilemma, here are a few things they should consider first.

Who will get the house in the divorce?

It is generally human nature to develop emotional attachments to our belongings. As children, we have a favorite toy. As adults, we have a favorite sweater.

Even though the emotional value of toys and sweaters might be high, their financial values are often quite low. The same does not apply to the family home. 

Navigating holidays after your divorce

Many people see Halloween as the kick-off to the holiday season. Before we know it, Thanksgiving and Christmas will be upon us.

For divorced parents and their families, the holiday season can bring even more stress. Many parents might wonder how they will divide time with their children for these busy celebrations, or how they will arrange celebrations in the first place.

Remember: Divorce is not about winning

When spouses do not get along, they often go into a divorce with the mindset that they want to take their soon-to-be-ex-spouse for everything they have. They might try to, essentially, win the divorce.

The pain and stress of ending an unhappy marriage can be a lot to endure, and it is common for spouses to disagree and dispute during a divorce. However, all divorcing spouses should remember: getting a divorce is not about winning or losing.

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