One of the best things that parents can do when they split up is to commit to raising the children together. This takes work on the part of both parents, but it won’t always be easy.
Making co-parenting work requires you and your ex to have open lines of communication. It’s easier to handle this when it’s focused on the children instead of on what caused the marriage to dissolve. Respectful communication directly with each other is the key here. Remember that you need to look at your ex as another parent instead of as a romantic interest. Here are three good tips:
1. Let the past go
Think of the co-parenting relationship as a business-like situation. This can help you to keep the focus where it needs to be. It may also make it easier to remain calm when you’re having to discuss matters related to the children with your ex.
2. Encourage relationships
Your children might be worried that they won’t be able to have relationships with both sides of their family. Make sure you encourage those relationships. This could mean that you and your ex need to shift parenting time schedules so the children can spend time with relatives on both sides.
3. Remain flexible
Even the best co-parenting agreement will need to change sometimes. You and your ex both being flexible about things related to the children can make it easier on everyone involved.
People who are divorcing and have children need to put the kids first. There’s no room for them to try to get back at each other through the kids. Getting the parenting plan together quickly can help everyone involved to adjust to the new way of life.