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Tips to make the most of your parenting time

On Behalf of | Oct 23, 2019 | Child Custody

Finding a new rhythm after a divorce can be a challenge for both parents and their children. It can be tough to get used to single life again after a divorce and move forward as a parent, especially when parents must share parenting time between the two of them.

So, here are a few tips to help divorced parents not only adjust to visitation and parenting time after a divorce but make the most of that time too.

It is easy for divorced parents, whether they are newly divorced or have been divorced for a while, to get caught up in the worry about the amount of time they have with their children. Many people feel stressed when they know the clock is ticking until it will be their former spouse’s turn for parenting time. 

This is a common worry that many parents experience, but it can significantly detract from the time they do have with their children. Regardless of the custody arrangements that Virginia parents have, parents can make the most of their time by:

  1. Assessing the schedule: When school is in session and parents work full time, it can be difficult to find time outside of the weekend to spend time together. It can be helpful for parents to sit down with their children to figure out the usual schedule they will have during their visitation. Establishing a normal routine can help both parents and children get used to the new situation after divorce.
  2. Clearing their head: This is possibly the most difficult task that parents face. Letting go of stress, whether it is from work or daily life, can be hard. However, setting those thoughts aside and really focusing on spending time with the kids can help parents make the most of their parenting time.
  3. Making time for quality time: Quality time looks different for every family. It could be playing together, making dinner together or even just having a conversation. It might be helpful for parents to talk with their children to see what they want to do during visitation too. 

Fun is important, but parenting is too 

It is still critical for parents to stick to the parenting plan they established in their custody agreement. They must fulfill their parenting responsibilities. After all, being the “fun parent” without discipline to win a child’s affection can often cause more stress for both parents and children in the long run.

Life might change after a divorce, but making the most of parenting time can help parents maintain that ever-important relationship with their child. And the child custody attorneys at Bowen Ten Long & Bal, PC, are committed to protecting that relationship during and after your divorce.